"Your life is perfect, you're an honors student"
Me: I'm upset because I wanted to get an A on this test and I got a B and I'm disappointed in myself
Friend: SHut up I have a D don't complain you bitch
Me: no no w-wait you don't understand, I understand that a B is a perfectly good grade and reflects my effort, but I live in an environment with a family who doesn't support that and who pressures me into getting better grades, and if I get B's, the consequences are not fun.
Friend: nooOOO BUT YOU ARE SMART FRIEND, DO NOT CONDESCEND TO US WITH YOUR FAKE ISSUES. SMART HONORS STUDENT MUST HAVE PERFECT LIFE
Me: no, actually my life's not that easy. I'm struggling with a perfectionist family, an anxiety disorder, a social life, expectations to keep a perfect GPA, and also regularly exercise and maintain a certain weight. I have a lot of things stressing me out and grades are one of them, your mother's reaction to your D is my mother's reaction to my B, I was raised in a household where my "gifted-and-talented" label cursed me from grade school to be expected to have a perfect, charmed, talented life. That doesn't mean my life is any of those things.
Friend: NO YOUR LIFE IS PERFECT SHUT UP DON'T COMPLAIN
Me: I guess I won't talk about it then. I'm sorry, your problems are more legit than mine. My bad.
Friend: God she's weird. She thinks HER life is hard.
Me the next week: Hey guys I got an A on this math test, I worked really hard and I'm super proud
Friend: Oh god of COURSE she got an A, she probably didn't even study. She's perfect. WHY ARE YOU SO PERFECT
Me: No actually I've struggled with this subject for a while and I used to be in the lower class but I worked really hard and studied and got a tutor and got my grade up and now I'm in honors....
Friend: But you're so smart you don't have to try like we do
Me: Am I even speaking the same language as you people? Do you not understand that I work just as hard as any of you? That my stresses and worries in life may be different but are just as valid? Am I being completely selfish by being proud of a grade I worked for and wanting credit for the fact that I worked /hard/ on it, it wasn't just LUCK? Is that so horrible of me?
Friend: ... well anyway congrats on your A we all knew you'd get one anyway lol
Parent: Gosh I don't understand how you could possibly have an anxiety problem or any stress, if you're stressed about grades or anything why don't you just TALK to someone? Friends? Us? Teachers? Counselors?
Me: I try but they shut me out and try to tell me that I don't have issues because I'm "perfect." You know what I just give up, I guess my problems aren't worthy enough for anyone to listen. I'm probably overreacting. I'm sorry.
Everyone: well isn't she such a little goody-goody with her perfect life gosh I just hate her and now she's acting all distant what the hell